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Happy Endings

How do you deal with change | losses | endings?

We tend to go through this complex web of life expecting predictability and consistency. We can carry with us an overwhelming load of unrealistic expectations, leaving behind us a trail of soul-crushing heartache. Our stories are defined by the relationships we form. By our attachment to these. Some mark a before and after in our journeys, redefining who we are. Important, yes. Permanent, no.

Why is it so difficult for us to embrace the idea of change? Why do we struggle to appreciate the beauty of endings? They say humans are creatures of habit.

Change is always taking place around us. The impact is palpable, unavoidable. You would think by now we would have gained an appreciation for it. It is the only constant after all. And yet, as much as we see that endings are necessary for growth to take place, our idealistic souls remain faithfully married to the illusion of predictable consistency.

What role do endings and looses play in our lives?

Maybe the point of life is to loose everything we ever thought we could never live without, so that we are forced to rebuild our life with the pieces that were once taken for granted. When we face looses, as painful as they may be, we are given the opportunity to find and to reinvent ourselves.  New perspectives always follow. 

Change and loss happens over and over again. Until one day we master the art of gracefully letting go. Releasing the old with an open heart and a genuine smile. Thankful. Sincerely thankful for the purpose each person, situation, and/or phase has served in our lives. We finally learn to focus our energy not on the impact of the ending itself, but on the meaning and value of the lessons it taught us.

_ Some may call this wisdom. I believe it is just a byproduct of living. Eventually you learn to embrace uncertainty. 

3 Comments
  • Naila Francis
    Posted at 15:56h, 02 March Reply

    Wise words, my friend. In hindsight, every big change in my life has come with gifts, no matter how hard, heartbreaking or unexpected they might have been. It’s not always easy to do but that’s why I strive to meet change with trust and curiosity – an openness to what’s on the other side

    Your post reminded me of the last lines from the Mary Oliver poem “In Blackwater Woods”:
    “To live in this world

    you must be able
    to do three things:
    to love what is mortal;
    to hold it

    against your bones knowing
    your own life depends on it;
    and, when the time comes to let it
    go,
    to let it go.”

    • D
      Posted at 23:27h, 02 March Reply

      Incredibly beautiful dear friend. Thank you for sharing your insight and poetic touch.

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