02 Mar Happy Endings
How do you deal with change | losses | endings?
We tend to go through this complex web of life expecting predictability and consistency. We can carry with us an overwhelming load of unrealistic expectations, leaving behind us a trail of soul-crushing heartache. Our stories are defined by the relationships we form. By our attachment to these. Some mark a before and after in our journeys, redefining who we are. Important, yes. Permanent, no.
Why is it so difficult for us to embrace the idea of change? Why do we struggle to appreciate the beauty of endings? They say humans are creatures of habit.
Change is always taking place around us. The impact is palpable, unavoidable. You would think by now we would have gained an appreciation for it. It is the only constant after all. And yet, as much as we see that endings are necessary for growth to take place, our idealistic souls remain faithfully married to the illusion of predictable consistency.
What role do endings and looses play in our lives?
Maybe the point of life is to loose everything we ever thought we could never live without, so that we are forced to rebuild our life with the pieces that were once taken for granted. When we face looses, as painful as they may be, we are given the opportunity to find and to reinvent ourselves. New perspectives always follow.
Change and loss happens over and over again. Until one day we master the art of gracefully letting go. Releasing the old with an open heart and a genuine smile. Thankful. Sincerely thankful for the purpose each person, situation, and/or phase has served in our lives. We finally learn to focus our energy not on the impact of the ending itself, but on the meaning and value of the lessons it taught us.
_ Some may call this wisdom. I believe it is just a byproduct of living. Eventually you learn to embrace uncertainty.